How to adjust to living alone
Whether it’s due to losing someone close or because you’ve recently separated from your partner, you may find yourself living alone. But with a little help, living alone is something that most of us can adapt to.
How can I cope with living alone?
Adjusting to living by yourself has its ups and downs, and there may be emotional issues you need to deal with. For example, if you have recently been bereaved or got divorced. There is no right or wrong way to deal with the change. Everyone has a different way of coping, and some people may take longer than others to come to terms with living alone.
Family and friends are a natural source of emotional support, but may not be available for many people, or you may prefer to talk to someone who is not involved in your life.
A counsellor can help you express your emotions, explore your feelings and help you come closer to some sort of resolution. There is free support for bereaved people (e.g. Cruse Bereavement Care), private therapists or your doctor may refer you for counselling through the NHS.
How can I manage my home on my own?
Living alone may mean that you take on new or extra tasks around the home. This can be daunting, but simple planning can make you feel more in control.
- Step 1: Make a list of everything you need to do. Write down everything involved in the upkeep of your home, from paying bills to grocery shopping.
- Step 2: Prioritise each task. What are the urgent tasks? What needs to be done every day, and what needs to be done less often?
- Step 3: Set a schedule and keep to it. A schedule can apply to everything, from cooking and cleaning to paying bills and keeping appointments. As soon as you receive a bill, make a note in your diary when it needs to be paid.
- Step 4: Work out how long each task will take, and, most importantly, don’t cram too many tasks into your schedule – leave some time to relax.
Source: Age UK